The End of Courtship?: A Close Reading

I recently read an article in The New York Times called “The End of Courtship?” The premise was that dating in New York sucks because 20-something men are too cowardly, horny, sought after, and dumb to ask women on proper dates or work at relationships. (It’s no wonder that women, like the one in the picture, are renting out entire bars so they can text these dudes. They sound like cool dudes.) The author, Alex Williams, interviewed several sexually and textually frustrated (!!) 20-something women to find out just what is going on in the Millenial courtship revolution. Let’s take a look.

Maybe if girls didn’t rent out bars so they could be alone with their phones they would be going on more dates.

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9 Responses to The End of Courtship?: A Close Reading

  1. greg dewar says:

    your annotations were right on. loved it!

  2. Shirley Kailas says:

    Dear Ramona Emerson,

    My friend just sent this to me and it’s pretty much the best thing ever. hilarious.

    -SK

  3. Miquel says:

    Your notes helped me to actually read that whole article which I skimmed when it first came out because it gave me gas and made me feel old(er)

  4. Mike says:

    The last part is either made up or deliberately misleading because it makes single straight men in SF seem more grown up than single straight men in NYC. Or is NYC really that bad?

  5. reader says:

    Your annotations are terrific and made this article 1000% times more readable. Regarding the article itself I love how it focuses entirely on the failure of men to adhere to some traditional gender role that was discarded in the 1970’s. News flash: if a guy is trying to “hang out” with you it’s because he’s trying to get to know you. There’s no reason to invest the time and effort into a “fancy dinner and play” for a person you don’t know who is 50% of the time going to flake out anyway because this is New York and that’s part of life here.

    Finally, as an early-30’s male I will suggest that a shockingly high percentage of women need to learn the basic skill of letting a man know that *you* are interested in *him* – which does not require asking him on a date. It’s a basic social skill. Welcome to equality – where you are expected to have some responsibility for your own life. You’ll be stunned how differently men act when you drop the unavailable act for a few seconds and come across as possibly interested and willing to give a man a chance.

    • Ramona says:

      thank you! Totally agree that the author seems nostalgic for a time when women had no money/agency. Although regarding your last point, I think if a woman acts uninterested it’s usually because she’s not…

  6. Michael P. Whelan says:

    I commend you for devoting your time to unravel some of the obvious snags in the social fabric of modern society. In all fairness, I do believe there are at least a reasaonably good number of people who negotiate this terrain, admittedly as complex as it may sometimes seem, with effective and rewarding outcomes.

    There are many cool people, who are not interested in playing games, and realize the elemental golden rule to act towards others as they would like others to act towards them. This timeless beacon has never moved, in fair weather, or perfect storm

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